tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post8999004822131083874..comments2024-01-30T11:17:26.526-08:00Comments on Adult Children Of Alcoholics/ ACAs ACOAs ACODFs Blog: Sponsorship in ACA?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-58531416655239605942012-10-22T15:55:50.481-07:002012-10-22T15:55:50.481-07:00Sometime after I posted the above post about ACA W...Sometime after I posted the above post about ACA WSO board capacity being 20 they changed capacity to 15. I wonder if the business minutes reflect that decision. <br /><br />Sponsorship...At times,I have blind spots and need all the soft eyes and gentle voices I can get regardless of how recovered they are. Unrecovered narcissism is dangerous sadly I had/have this pathological attraction where I sparkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11280489703794642840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-51571823139796312462012-10-22T15:44:01.953-07:002012-10-22T15:44:01.953-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.sparkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11280489703794642840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-18341939131152194422010-11-20T21:24:42.876-08:002010-11-20T21:24:42.876-08:00On Sponsorship,The Dr.s Opinion in the ACA Text is...On Sponsorship,The Dr.s Opinion in the ACA Text is written by DR.Whitfield. In Dr. Whitfield's personal book Healing The Child Within he quotes a few authors and obviously thought it was important to mention on page 64:<br /><br />"The recovering person, however, is usually so vulnerable often related to the confusion, fear and enthusiasm and/or resistence to recovery, that they might Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-91168891761864555142010-10-01T16:46:04.211-07:002010-10-01T16:46:04.211-07:00I have read some of the comments and some of the f...I have read some of the comments and some of the folks really need to chill out. As a member of the Phoenix ACA Intergroup for the past 15 years, I have seen many people complain about those who serve and do 12th Step Service work. It seems the majority of those people that complain are those who when asked to help and contribute are the first ones to hit the door.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-7728576237076378782010-07-15T14:32:01.636-07:002010-07-15T14:32:01.636-07:00OMG, I just read this:
"The 2010 Annual Busi...OMG, I just read this:<br /><br />"The 2010 Annual Business Conference of Adult Children of Alcoholics was held April 23-25, 2010, in Tulsa, Oklahoma. Twenty-four ACA members, representing seven US states and Denmark, were in attendance."<br /><br />Why was this in Oklahoma? Wow, I hope they fit all 24 people in one room and that "24" included the ACA WSO Board.<br /><br />I sparkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11280489703794642840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-57350514810913930612010-04-08T20:23:11.588-07:002010-04-08T20:23:11.588-07:00ACA Text
page 635
"On the day of the fifth S...ACA Text<br />page 635<br /><br />"On the day of the fifth Step, the sponcee should arrive with numerous lists and worksheets from the fourth step guide in this book."<br /><br />I think that statement is a fine example of how sponsorship could be abusive. If I had to write numerous pages of my fourth step I probably would have blown my brains out.sparkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11280489703794642840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-23010968549411782802010-02-23T15:46:07.503-08:002010-02-23T15:46:07.503-08:00Anonymous said:
"Regarding the upcoming ACA ...Anonymous said:<br /><br />"Regarding the upcoming ACA business conference: It’s my understanding that ACA WSO doesn’t have much to do with it other than to host it."<br /><br />In my undeerstanding the motions are simply voted by the delegates only to see they pass and THEN to see if ACA WSO Trustees will consider them. That does sound all backwards but sadly that is what I see.<br /><sparkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11280489703794642840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-38405952434564629732010-02-23T10:41:34.954-08:002010-02-23T10:41:34.954-08:00I know from my experience that I would not be wher...I know from my experience that I would not be where I am in my recovery today without having gotten a sponsor when I first came to ACA. The ACA Fellowship Text talks about the “relationship template” we develop in childhood. I can honestly say that the relationship I formed with an ACA sponsor was the first healthy connection I had with someone, and it was the first relationship I experienced Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-43614864862775299822010-02-22T21:38:26.230-08:002010-02-22T21:38:26.230-08:00For any that don't know...
There is the Omer ...For any that don't know...<br /><br />There is the Omer G. 2005 ACA Convention Sponsorship Workshop.<br /><br />"Omer G. leads you through a comprehensive workshop on ACA Sponsorship. Learn the different types of sponsors, what to look for and how to select a sponsor, what to do as a sponsor, how to set appropriate boundaries and your rights & responsibilities in recovery." <br sparkynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-20264556626212438402010-02-22T11:53:12.412-08:002010-02-22T11:53:12.412-08:00I also would like that address the ones that perha...I also would like that address the ones that perhaps do not completely understand the complex nature of PTSD and talk about the shame that is induced when asking PTSD victims to follow the traditional sponsorship method.<br /><br />I have ptsd which include severe trust issues. It is bad enough I often feel different I was constantly "shamed" by the "groupthink" in 12 step sparkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11280489703794642840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-66376158557881205972010-02-21T17:31:29.239-08:002010-02-21T17:31:29.239-08:00ACA Text
page 371
"As a sponsor, we do not n...ACA Text<br />page 371<br /><br />"As a sponsor, we do not need to fear that we will make mistakes or harm someone through sponsorship,. Adult children are survivors, and they know how to protect themselves, In some cases, there are hurt feelings and miscommunication, but lasting harm is not likely."<br /><br />That sounds very, very cold and insensitive if you ask me. Perhaps even as sparkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11280489703794642840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-33252415265375726892010-02-21T09:37:46.303-08:002010-02-21T09:37:46.303-08:00Who is ACA WSO? Currently what eight people or les...Who is ACA WSO? Currently what eight people or less...ACA WSO Board of Trustees capacity is 20!<br /><br />I feel and sense that currently there are a few blocks still missing in this ACA WSO inverted pyramid of service structure.<br /><br />Perhaps when truly does come of age,"ACA Comes of Age", more long time members will rotate off the ACA WSO board, healthier ones join and stop sparkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11280489703794642840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-85511535945420773112010-02-16T21:59:59.314-08:002010-02-16T21:59:59.314-08:00Sponsorship in ACA has been asked about in meeting...Sponsorship in ACA has been asked about in meetings I've attended for as long as I can remember. Glad to see it come to debate within all the representative groups of ACA. The matter of actually working the steps has mystified most people in attendance and seems to result in a lot of lost individuals.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-35570427819275793142010-02-16T17:39:45.041-08:002010-02-16T17:39:45.041-08:00I believe this blog was set up to be a place where...I believe this blog was set up to be a place where all can voice their opinions. It is the free exchange of ideas that cultivates independent thought. Readers are free to disagree or agree with posts or other readers silently or make their comments known.<br /><br />One shouldn't fear giving their opinion for fear that another may blindly follow it. Otherwise the point of having this forum Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-41420909415997709422010-02-16T17:04:41.142-08:002010-02-16T17:04:41.142-08:00Is this the web page editor's opinion, or some...Is this the web page editor's opinion, or someone else's? Are they a participant in WSO? The post doesn't clarify who's opinion this is.<br /><br />My concern is that this is an influential place to opine, even though the writer qualifies their opinoin with "I Think..." Since we are being asked for a group conscience in our individual groups, and mine hasn't heard Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com