Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Eradicating Resentment

Wayne Dyer on resentment, responsibility and love:

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Monday, August 11, 2008

A Self Esteem Makeover

Do you focus on your flaws and failures, rather than your positive attributes and accomplishments? Low self-esteem can result in a distorted self-image that can feed depression.

Most people feel bad about themselves from time to time. Temporary feelings of low self-esteem may be triggered by being treated poorly by someone else recently or in the past, or by a person's own judgments of him or herself. Low self-esteem is a constant companion for too many people, especially those who experience depression.

If you go through life feeling bad about yourself needlessly, low self- esteem keeps you from enjoying life, doing the things you want to do, and working toward personal goals.

To improve your self-image, try making lists, rereading them often, and rewriting them from time to time. The process will help you to feel better about yourself. If you have a journal, you can write your lists there. If you don't, any piece of paper will do.

Make a list of :
*At least 5 of your strengths, for example, persistence, courage, friendliness, creativity

*At least 5 things you admire about yourself, for example, the way you have raised your children, your good relationship with someone in your family, or your spirituality

*The 5 greatest achievements in your life so far, like recovering from a serious illness, graduating from high school, or learning to use a computer

*At least 20 other accomplishments --- they can be as simple as learning to tie your shoes, to getting an advanced college degree

*10 ways you can "treat" or reward yourself that don't include food and that don't cost anything, such as walking in woods, window- shopping, or chatting with a friend

*10 things you can do to make yourself laugh

*10 things you could do to help someone else

*Things that you do that make you feel good about yourself


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