Special thanks to Anonymous for sharing this:
What is the inner child?
I guess I think of it as the real me- how I really feel deep inside.
Because I have learned to negate my feelings, sometimes how I feel is initially a mystery to me. But the feelings are there if I want to tap into them.
I just stop and ask myself "How do you really feel?" or "What do you really want?" or "Does that feel right?". I take a minute, or longer, to reflect. Often I get an answer right away. Other times, it takes longer. I give myself permission not to answer at all but this is usually not the case.
I think practice has made me more proficient and cut down the time it takes to know what I feel. I think that in the past I knew what I "felt" but let other things cloud it. I let fear, shame and guilt interfere with the normal process.
I talk to my inner child anytime, all the time, whenever. He always hears me.
I used to cry for "no apparent reason". But there is a reason. A big, important reason. I respect that even if I don't immediately understand it. And I am still coming to grips with the sadness. A sadness so intense and overwhelming that, as a child, I had to erase and deny it's very existence.
I don't minimize those feelings anymore. They are there for a reason. Accepting that has helped me to explore and understand them.
Check out the Orange County ACA website at: Orange County Adult Children